So you've got your MS. You revise the sucker and hand it over - shaking - to you critique partners/alpha/beta whatever reader you may have and await their feedback.
Then you get it. Some love it, some offer suggestions, some tear it into tiny shreds and leave your dignity curled into a ball, crying on the floor.
What do you do?
Don't get me wrong, I'm like constructive criticism. I welcome suggestions and ways to make my MS better. Everyone has a different opinion and yes, even if you get published, some readers will love your book and some, well you know.
I'm a big believer in gut instinct and I found this quote from author Adele Geras:
"Don't reject advice out of misplaced vanity. Sometimes others really do know best.
However, if your whole being recoils from the suggestion, don't follow it."
Recently I had some trouble with my opening chapter. Some of my readers loved it but a couple of CP's suggested it was slow and didn't start in the right place.
So, I asked some advice. I will be forever grateful to the fab Mary Lindsey who told me to get a few more opinions and if they said the same then I would know. So I did. And I've changed it and yes, it reads better now.
So what is the art of receiving feedback? I think it is to accept help and change when needed, you'll know if it is. Most of the time I agree when something is suggested that works better. And, if you don't agree? Then I shall scream this loud and proud, TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS.
If it feels wrong then don't do it. The story is your voice and you have to love it not just change it for someone else to love. And you got to love your work right? That's why we all write isn't it?
Oh yeah, and if in doubt about feedback, watch this that clip I found on the cool blog of Natalie Whipple.